Woman, step out of your sexual comfort zone!

Here are some ways that can help a woman figure out what turns her on.

By: Rachel Hercman | | Updated: September 25, 2014 1:03 pm

As you sit here reading this webpage, odds are you have a pop-blocker setup for your internet browser. The purpose of a pop-up blocker is to ensure that as you peruse the web, you do not have to deal with bombardment of windows that would normally appear as you stumble upon on new web pages. While pop-up blockers are usually effective, at times you may choose to allow pop-ups from certain websites; otherwise you won’t be able to fully appreciate the content. Also Read - High blood pressure may lead to sexual dysfunction in women; Know how to deal with it

As a society that tends to tag men as the sexual gender, it’s no surprise that some women have a pop-up blocker in their minds when it comes to what turns them on. It may be due to shame, guilt, fears of being considered ‘dirty’, or just feeling overall uncomfortable with sexual feelings. They may have a fear that being turned on means they will definitely lose control or that their fantasies may be out of line with what they deem socially acceptable. For some, this can translate into feeling ambivalent when pondering what turns them on or considering sharing fantasies with a partner. (Read: Common carnal sins women make in bed) Also Read - This is what you need to do if your vagina feels sore after a steamy session of sex

Here are some ways that can help you figure out what turns you on: Also Read - Staying connected with your loved ones amidst the COVID-19 pandemic

-Have you ever seen a movie or read a book that made you feel aroused? Try to think about what the scenario was and the setting described.

-Try reading erotica and take note of which themes speak to you. Don’t just focus on the specific details; pay attention to the other overall feel. Was it very passionate? Was it long and slow foreplay or quick? Was it rough? What types of roles were there? Was there lots of talking or no talking at all?

-Try doing Sensate Focus with your partner–

The good news is that if you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone you can change the settings on your sexuality pop-up blocker, but some women feel apprehensive about exploring what may pop up as a result. However, the more comfortable you feel with yourself as a sexual being, the better you can understand what turns you on and how you can make your sex life more enjoyable. (Read: 7 tips to get your dream woman to love you!)

The author, Rachel Hercman, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) is a psychotherapist specializing in sexuality, dating, and relationships. She works at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality in New York, a center that provides cutting-edge medical and psychological treatment for female sexual dysfunction, where she helps women improve their sexual functioning, body image and relationship satisfaction.

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Published : December 11, 2013 10:09 am | Updated:September 25, 2014 1:03 pm

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